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A young man wished to marry the farmer's beautiful daughter. He went to the farmer to ask his permission.
 
The farmer looked him over and said,
"Son, go stand out in that field. I'm going to release three bulls, one at a time. If you can catch the tail of any one of the three bulls, you can marry my daughter."
 
The young man stood in the pasture awaiting the first bull.
 
The barn door opened and out ran the biggest, meanest-looking bull he had ever seen. He decided that one of the next bulls had to be a better choice than this one, so he ran over to the
 
side and let the bull pass through the pasture out the back gate.
 
The barn door opened again. Unbelievable. He had never seen anything so big and fierce in his life. It stood pawing the ground, grunting, slinging slobber as it eyed him. Whatever the next
 
bull was like, it had to be a better choice than this one. He ran to the fence and let the bull pass through the pasture, out the back gate.
 
The door opened a third time. A smile came across his face. This was the weakest, scrawniest little bull he had ever seen. This one was his bull. As the bull came running by, he positioned
 
himself just right and jumped at just the exact moment.
 
He grabbed... but the bull had no tail!
 
Moral
 
Life is full of opportunities. Some will be easy to take advantage of, some will be difficult. But once we let them pass (often in hopes of something better), those opportunities may never
 
again be available. So always grab the first opportunity.

Checking out at the store, the young cashier suggested to the older woman that she should bring her own shopping bags because plastic bags weren't good for the environment.
 
The woman apologized and explained, "We didn't have this green thing back in my earlier days."
 
The cashier responded, "That's our problem today. Your generation did not care enough to save our environment for future generations."
 
She was right -- our generation didn't have the green thing in its day.
 
Back then, we returned milk bottles, pop bottles and beer bottles to the store. The store sent them back to the plant to be washed and sterilized and refilled, so they could use the same
 
bottles over and over. Yes, they really were recycling.
 
We refilled writing pens with ink instead of buying a new pen; and we replaced the razor blades in a razor instead of throwing away the whole razor just because the blade got dull.
 
But, we didn't have the green thing back in our day.
 
We walked up the stairs, because we didn't have an escalator in every shop and office building. We walked to the grocery store and didn't climb into a 300-horsepower machine every time we had to go two blocks.
 
But, she was right. We didn't have the green thing in our day.
 
Back then, we washed the baby's nappies because we didn't have the throw-away kind. We dried clothes on a line, not in an 'energy gobbling machine burning up 220 volts;' wind and solar
 
power really did dry our clothes back in our early days. Kids got hand-me-down clothes from their brothers or sisters, not always brand-new clothing.
 
But, that young lady is right. We didn't have the green thing back in our day.
 
Back then, we had one TV, or radio, in the house -- not a TV in every room. And, the TV had a small screen the size of a handkerchief (remember them?), not a screen the size of the county of Yorkshire .
 
In the kitchen, we blended and stirred by hand because we didn't have electric machines to do everything for us.
 
When we packaged a fragile item to send in the post, we used wadded up old newspapers to cushion it, not Styrofoam or plastic bubble wrap.
 
Back then, we didn't fire up an engine and burn petrol just to cut the lawn. We used a push mower that ran on human power.
 
We exercised by working so we didn't need to go to a health club to run on treadmills that operate on electricity.
 
But, she's right. We didn't have the green thing back then.
 
We drank water from a fountain or a tap when we were thirsty instead of demanding a plastic bottle flown in from another country.
 
We accepted that a lot of food was seasonal and didn't expect that to be bucked by flying it thousands of air miles around the world.
 
We actually cooked food that didn't come out of a packet, tin or plastic wrap and we could even wash our own vegetables and chop our own salad.
 
But, we didn't have the green thing back then.
 
Back then, people took the tram or a bus, and kids rode their bikes to school or walked instead of turning their mothers into a 24-hour taxi service.
 
We had one electrical outlet in a room, not an entire bank of sockets to power a dozen appliances.
 
And we didn't need a computerized gadget to receive a signal beamed from satellites 2,000 miles out in space in order to find the nearest pizza joint.
 
But, isn't it sad the current generation laments how wasteful we old folks were just because we didn't have the green thing back then?

An atheist was taking a walk through the woods, admiring all that evolution had created.
 
 "What majestic trees! What powerful rivers! What beautiful animals!", he said to himself. As he was walking along the river, he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him. When he turned to see what the cause was, he saw a 7-foot grizzly charging right towards him. He ran as fast as he could. He looked over his shoulder and saw that the bear was closing, He ran even faster, crying in fear. He looked over his shoulder again, and the bear was even closer. His heart was pounding and he tried to run even faster. He tripped and fell on the ground. He rolled over to pick himself up, but saw the bear right on top of him, reaching for him with his left paw and raising his right paw to strike him.
 
 At that moment, the Atheist cried out "Oh my God!...." Time stopped. The bear froze. The forest was silent. Even the river stopped moving.
 
 As a bright light shone upon the man, a voice came out of the sky, "You deny my existence for all of these years; teach others I don''''t exist; and even credit creation to a cosmic accident. Do you expect me to help you out of this predicament? Am I to count you as a believer?"
 
 The atheist looked directly into the light "It would be hypocritical of me to suddenly ask You to treat me as Christian now, but perhaps could you make the bear a Christian?" "Very well," said the voice.
 
 The light went out. The river ran again. And the sounds of the forest resumed.
 
 And then the bear dropped his right paw ..... brought both paws together...bowed his head and spoke: "Lord, for this food which I am about to receive, I am truly thankful."

Conversation between a Husband (H) and a Psychologist (P):
 
P : What do you do for a living Mr. Bandy ?
H : I work as an Accountant in a Bank.
 
P : Your Wife ?
H : She doesn't work. She's a Housewife only.
 
P : Who makes breakfast for your family in the morning?
H : My Wife, because she doesn't work.
 
P : At what time does your wife wake up for making breakfast?
H : She wakes up at around 5 am because she cleans the house first before making breakfast.
 
P : How do your kids go to school?
H : My wife takes them to school, because she doesn't work.
 
P : After taking your kids to school, what does she do ?
H : She goes to the market, then goes back home for cooking and laundry. You know, she doesn't work.
 
P : In the evening, after you go back home from office, what do you do ?
H : Take rest, because i'm tired due to all day works.
 
P : What does your wife do then ?
H : She prepares meals, serving our kids, preparing meals for me and cleaning the dishes, cleaning the house then taking kids to bed.
 
Whom do you think works more, from the story above ???
 
The daily routines of your wives commence from early morning to late night. That is called 'DOESN'T WORK' ??!!
 
Yes, Being Homemakers do not need Certificate of Study, even High Position, but their ROLE/PART is very important!
 
Appreciate your wives. Because their sacrifices are uncountable. This should be a reminder and reflection for all of us to understand and appreciate each others roles.
 
All about a WOMAN ....
* When she is quiet, millions of things are running in her mind.
 
* When she stares at you, she is wondering why she loves you so much in spite of being taken for granted.
 
* When she says I will stand by you, she will stand by you like a rock.
 
Never hurt her or take her wrong or for granted...
 
Forward to every woman to make her smile and to every man to make him realize a woman's worth...!!!

A man is the most beautiful part of God's creation who starts compromising at a very tender age.
 
He sacrifices his chocolates... for his sister.
 
He sacrifices his dreams, for just a smile on his parents face.
 
He spends his entire pocket money on buyng gifts for the lady he loves just to see her smiling.
 
He sacrifices his full youth for his wife & children by working late at night without any complain.
 
He builds their future by taking loans from banks & repaying them for lifetime.
 
He struggles a lot & still has to bear scolding from his mother, wife & boss.
 
His life finally ends up only by compromising for others' happiness.
If he goes out, then he's careless;
If he stays at home, then he's a lazy.
 
If he scolds children, then he's a monster;
If he doesn't scold, then he's a irresponsible guy.
 
If he stops wife from working, then he's an insecure guy;
If he doesn't stops wife from workin, then he's somebody who lives on wife's earnings.
 
If he listens to mom, then he's mama's boy;
If he listens to wife, he's wife's slave.
 
Respect every male in your life. You will never know what he has sacrificed for you.

 No one can ruin your day without your permission.
 
Most of the people will be about as happy as they decide to be.
 
Other can stop you temporarily but YOU can do it permanently.
 
Success stops when you do.
 
You will never have it all together.
 
Life is journey not a destination. Enjoy the trip.
 
The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
 If you don't start, it is certain you won't reach.
 He or She whoever laughs , lasts.
 
Life is what is coming, not what was.
 
Success is getting up one more time
 
When things go wrong, don't go with them.
 
Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.

We all have difficult people in our lives. You know-the ones you dread talking to; the ones you try to avoid at all costs. They may be your ex-spouse, a co-worker, or a family member; they may be a bully, a control freak, passive-aggressive or someone who loves to play the role of victim. So, how do we deal with these people? How can we work together productively, whether in a parenting, a working, or a family relationship?Here are a few secrets to being able to keep your cool when dealing with that difficult person in your life: 1. Know Your TriggersSelf-knowledge is powerful.We all have subjects and idiosyncrasies that push our buttons, and I can almost guarantee that the difficult person in your life knows what those are-but do you? Spend some time exploring what really ticks you off. Is it when somebody talks about politics, money, or your family?  Once you have your list of those trigger buttons, you are ready to arm yourself.Create a plan. What will you do when the conversation steers dangerously close to one of your buttons?You can practice deep breathing, take a short time-out, walk away from the conversation, or any combination of the three. Whatever allows you to center yourself and regain your focus on the purpose of the conversation will work. 2. The STOP PhrasesIf you are having a conversation with a difficult person and you just want it to end, these phrases seem to do the trick (or at least take the wind out of the other person's sails)."Sorry you feel that way.""That's your opinion.""Oh.""Perhaps you're right."If you just repeat these phrases over and over during the conversation, eventually the other person will give up trying to get you to join the argument. 3. Resist the Temptation to get Sucked InDifficult people want to engage you: don't fall for that trap. Listen to what you're saying: are you trying to justify, argue, defend, or explain your position? If you are, stop. If you don't, the conversation will just continue to go around in circles. You will never change the mind of a difficult person-otherwise you probably wouldn't be seeing them as "difficult." 4. The Big OneWhile the 3 secrets above can help you to avoid or get out of an uncomfortable conversation with a difficult person, there is one secret that can truly change your relationship with that person in your life: that secret is, that they are human, and are dealing with their own issues and their own crap that they're bringing to the table.Their difficult behaviors are benefiting them in some way that helps them deal with those issues, and most of the time their behavior has nothing to do with you. A person might feel more secure when they are bullying someone or controlling others, or they might feel a sense of importance when they're getting a lot of attention-even negative attention. They might try to gain a sense of belonging by playing the victim and getting others to help them, or someone who's inflicting hurt and provoking hostility might be trying to protect his own sense of identity. If we take the time to figure out what unconscious beliefs may be behind someone's difficult behavior, we may be able to change our interaction with them and improve our relationship. Once you figure out what may be driving their behavior, you can begin to try different ways to help them get their emotional needs met without resorting to that behavior any longer.The main idea here is to tap into your empathy pool and realize that the person you see as the bane of your existence is just another human being trying to get along as best they can. A Final ThoughtYes, sometimes we have to disengage in order to save our sanity, but keep in mind that everybody is doing the best they can with the emotional tools they have at their disposal. It is possible to get past our reactions to their difficult behaviors so that we may be able to do our part in building a calmer, more productive relationship, and in the end, this is all we can truly control-our own reactions. You never know-one day, you may actually look forward to seeing these people.

You might have heard the story about the two wolves. If not, here is the refresher.

 
The old man told his son that a battle between two wolves inside each one of us goes on all the times. First wolf is the Evil character wolf; it produces germs of anger, envy, sorrow, greed, arrogance, stress, lies and tension in our minds. Whereas, the second one is Good character wolf; it generates the energy for hope, peace, happiness, truth, generosity and ethics in our mind, heart and soul. The son asked, so who wins the battle? The old man replied, the one which you feed more!
 
The story has a superb driving force motivating us to do our self audit. The question is that which wolf we feed daily and how much? If we surround ourselves in negative character people, do back biting, leg pulling, learning tricks to deceive people and talk pessimist events or ideas then definitely we are strengthening the Evil Wolf. On the contrary, if we spend our times with nice and positive people, read good books, focus on solutions, and assist people in resolving their problems then we are encouraging the Good Wolf to overcome the Evil one. In the long run, the Wolf represents our character because eventually our character gets molded either in to a Good Wolf or Evil Wolf.

The FBI had an opening for an assassin. After all the background checks, interviews and testings were done three finalists remained. Richard, Sam and Jane were to be given a final test. For the final test, the FBI agents took Richard to a large metal door and handed him a gun.
 
"We must know that you will follow instructions no matter what the circumstances. Inside the room you will find Betty, your wife, sitting in a chair. Kill Her!"
 
Richard said, "You can't be serious. I could never shoot my wife."
 
The agent said, "Then you're not the right man for this job. Take your wife and go home."
 
Sam was given the same instructions. He took the gun and went into the room. All was quiet for about five minutes.
 
Sam came out with tears in his eyes, "I tried, but I can't kill my wife."
 
The agent said "You don't have what it takes. Take your wife and go home."
 
Finally it was Jane's turn. She was given the same instructions, to kill her husband Bob. She took the gun and went into the room. Shots were heard. They heard screaming, crashing, banging on the walls. After a few minutes, all was quiet. The door opened slowly and there stood Jane, wiping the sweat from her brow.
 
"The gun was loaded with blanks" she said. "I had to beat him to death with a chair."

The parents now a days are quite worried about the behavioral changes in thier childern due to several socio-economical reasons. The gap between parents and us, the youth, is increasing day by day due to which the family bonding is getting weaker and weaker. We, the youth, want liberty in every deed we do. We want our parents not to be disturb us in what-ever we do in what-so-ever manner. We have forgotten the amount of time our parnets have invested in for our brought up. We have forgotten the countless efforts and sacrifices by our parents throughtout our lives.
 
Starting from our birth they have taken care of our food (22years * 365 days * 3 times = 24000 times!), our clothes (daily washing, ironing, new purchasing), our education (daily home works, uniform, school/tution fee), religious & moral teaching every day (THE REAL GREAT JOB), computer & toys purchasing and God knows how many other countless efforts they have put in to make us a complete human being to survive in this world. Indeed, all those efforts cannot be covered in this article but the overall emphesis is that its our moral and religious mandatory responsibility to take care of them now.
 
Below are some small acts of kindness which I request you to consider to show your affection with them and to take care of them:
 
.Give them enough money so that they don't have to ask you.
 
.Share funny and entertaining things with them to make them laugh or smile.
 
.Don't speak loudly. Speak slowly, nicely and softly.
 
.Do not walk in front of them in market or anywhere. They might walk slow being old; stay behind them. Give them respect.
 
Ask for small tasks again and again. For example, "Dad/Mom, do you need water? Should i bring tea for you? Are you hungry, baba" etc 
 
.Closely monitor thier health. visit doctor if required. Have them thorougly checked time to time.
 
.Take care of their medicines. Set reminders on your phone for their medicines and serve them on time.
 
.Take them to the religious place. Walk slowly. Follow their pace.
 
.Take them to the park for walk. If not possible daily, then take them on weekend.
 
.Do not call them by their name. Call them with respect.
 
.Open the door for them with respect
 
.Adapt yourself according to their schedule not vise versa.
 
.Do shopping for them (buy their clothes, shoes, small items like tooth paste).  Buy your mother a nice coffee cup. Take them to market and buy them according to their likings. Buy your parents some nice books; usually people love to read books in old age.
 
.When you come back to home, visit them first in their room.
 
.Respect thier social circle and let them enjoy with their friends.  
 
.In case of conflict on any issue, try to follow them as much as possible. Remember, they have been sacrificing their money and time in raising you for years and years. Its time to pay back. They have been showing all the patience during your childhood. Its time for you to be patient.
 
Keep them with you instead of sending them to old houses etc. This will be a big act of ignorance if you do.
 
.When starting the food, serve them first.
 
In the end, I would recommend making a check list of this email  and paste it on any wall in your room or kitchen and read it often to remember
 
Please do share if you are doing any other good thing in making your parents feel great :)

Two Women chatting in office.
Woman 1: I had a fine evening, how was yours?
 
Woman 2: It was a disaster.. My husband came home, ate his dinner in  minutes and fell a sleep. How was yours ?
 
Woman 1: Oh it was amazing! My husband came home and took me out for a romantic dinner. After dinner we walked for an hour.. When we came home he lit the candles around the house. It was like a fairy tale!
 
At the same time, their husbands are talking at work.
Husband 1: How was your evening ?
 
Husband 2: Great... I came home, dinner was on the table, I ate and fell asleep. What about you ?
 
Husband 1: It was horrible. I came home, there's no dinner, they cut the electricity because I forgot to pay the bill; so I took her out for dinner which was so expensive that i didn't had money left for a cab. We walked home which took an hour and when we got home I remembered there was no electricity so I had to light candles all over the house!!
 
Moral: Presentation does matter... No matter what the reality is.